Make your partner your bestfriend

There are many relationship and marriages that are suffering today because of trust issues. Anyone who should know and understand you the most should be your partner. There shouldn't be secret between you two. A partner who is shy to be naked among each of you in the presence of the other is keeping secrets, not just secrets but deep secrets. Some men or women in a marriage can tell their best-friend everything they want to see in their marriage, but for them to tell their spouse, its like a load on them. Every relationship should first be built on friendship in-order to avoid trust issues although this usually happen with the male folk. No man is an island, every one wants to have a good marital life, but if your partner is not aware, how can they make adjustments. Your best-friend won't and can't tell your partner or help you resolve the issue, you are only creating a space in your marriage. You might think that you don't know how the person will take it, just say it, the way your partner takes it is not your business the fact is that you have said it, and in the person's spare time he/she will think about it and work on it. Everyone has a way of taking things in, the fact that your ex took it in well does not mean your spouse will take it that way. Besides who does not want a perfect marriage. If you don't like the way your wife cooks, tell her let her know, the day the food is also sweet, tell her also, don't let everything be negativity. If you don't like the way your husband laugh and joke with girls outside, tell him let him know, a closed mouth is a closed destiny. Keeping it away from your spouse won't solve your problem. It will only begin to grow into hatred and the day you let loose, it will be a disaster. If you don't like your wife's body after giving birth there is a way to say it to her 'I think pregnancy took the nice shape you had because we wanted kids to call our own, and i will love you to get back in shape for me, i want to see what made me fall in love with you, and i will register you in a gym which I believe you will love, we can also go together on some occasion'. Who will hear that and get angry. But when you tell her 'since you started giving birth you have become so fat and have loosed shape, do something about it', excuse me bros, even a dog will bark at you. The way we bring up issues matters a lot and also the right timing. There is still time to make things right, that marriage is supposed to be an envy not what will draw people away from getting married. God will help you.