My only sister almost destroyed my marriage

Dear joyeden, I am a follower of your blog, I have a pressing issue which I would like other followers to know about so as to get there advice/comment. I am a young beautiful woman of 27 years and my husband is 31. We have a son of 2 years and currently carrying another in my womb. I noticed a change in my husband's behaviour, when he started traveling out of Abuja regularly,  saying he is going for a meeting, as he is now a zonal manager in his office. We have been married for 3 years and this regular "unusual "meetings started a year ago. He cares for my family so well, but takes care of my only sister more than me. She is an undergraduate student, he established her in a business and also bought a car for her.He changes her wardrobe regularly and does a lot of things for her, while I am a full house wife and looks like rag. when I do complain sometimes that I am the one that need care and those things more, he complains that am I not happy that he is doing all these for my family as my Father is late and my mum can't carry us alone. My husband has even mentioned divorce to me, because i do complain he is cheating on me. Two months ago, I was told by a friend that she saw my husband in a hotel with a young lady here in Abuja. I called my husband to confirm what I heard but he denied it. After a while my friend called me again that if I don't believe her, I should come and see for myself. On getting to the hotel I saw my husband who said he was travelling to Lagos in Abuja with my younger sister coming out of a hotel. Then I realised that it was my only sister that wanted to break my marriage and marry my husband. When the whole truth was revealed and my extended family members were involved, it was revealed that my younger sister used charm for my husband and she decided to remove the spell. On her way back to school to Lagos, she met a guy and they fell in love, and now they are planning to get married, now their wedding is around the corner, and my mum is pleading with me to be there. I don't think I will be able to forgive her and  I don't know if I should attend the wedding or not, because I might say what she did to me. What should I do?
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